If You Failed To Save The Relationship - Are You Ready For Another Marriage?
As you endured the pain caused by the breakup of your first marriage, getting into another relationship was probably the farthermost from your mind. But time heals all wounds as they say. And when you meet another person that will make your heart beat faster again, you will recognize that you would like to give it another go and enter into another relationship.
On the other hand before you take the plunge, explore yourself and determine first if you are surely ready for another marriage. A lot of soul searching is in order here as you do not want to commit the same mistakes in your first marriage and go through the overwhelming hurt again if you experience another breakup.
Think of the past and look back to the circumstances by which your first marriage broke down and you were not able to save the relationship. Was it your indiscretion that the marriage crumbled? Were there things that you failed to do leading to the collapse of your first relationship? What triggered the relationship to fall apart? The breakup could not have happened all of a sudden; there must have been small circumstances that piled up and led to the gradual deterioration of the marriage. And when you assess your first marriage, be on the level with yourself. Be open and admit your mistakes. Did you not do enough in your first marriage and what was it that you did not do that you were unable to save the relationship? It is only by having an sincere and objective appraisal of what went wrong will you be able to define things you have to do and things you have to avoid failure in a second marriage
And if you decide to get married again, do it for the correct reasons. We all know that being alone is not easy but plunging into marriage just because you are desolate is not the right reason to do this. And second marriages can be more exacting. If the person you have chosen to marry or you have children, you are getting into a relationship not only with that person but with all people that come with him or her. And you must be mature enough to deal with this.
Are you and your new partner emotionally prepared to get married again? Have you, and your partner for that matter, rebounded from your particular divorces and are strong enough to surmount the new challenge that a new marriage will bring? Have you learned from mistakes in your first marriage? Are you both in an established financial state? Finances can be a major cause of trouble in a new marriage specifically if there are children from your first marriages involved.
If you have pondered on the above question and are certain that you are positively ready for a second marriage, sit down and have a heart to heart talk with your partner. It is key that before you start a new marriage, you both are in the same wavelength and both realize what each is expecting from the other. Lay your cards on the table and be truthful. Let your partner how you feel and think and encourage your partner to open up to you too. Concede on particular aspects of the marriage, things like the children, money matters, and your whole setup. If you agree on these things early on, you avoid creating disagreement later on in the relationship.
An as you begin your life as a married couple, always bear in mind the mistakes that you have committed in your first marriage to keep you on your toes and avoid doing these again. And cultivate the passion. Whatsoever the reason of the breakup of your first marriage, there must have been some point that you forgot all about the passion. In this your second marriage, try to keep the fires burning and continuously bestir the love and romance and make this new marriage a successful union. Get more save the relationship advice today.
Zeny Zabala is a relationship resource person who loves to write articles about marriage and relationships for individuals looking for help and inspiration in their relationships. She also provides reading recommendations on her web site with reviews on the best available reading resources on the internet today. Visit her website now.
